Jami Fosgate

Communicating with the Professional Team  If is less common today for Collaborative Divorce cases to have everyone meeting in person as it is now possible to meet online and  use professionals from different areas of Southern California or even different areas of the state.  Having effective communication by email is vital to the collaborative process. It is important to … [Read more...] about Collaborative Divorce Communications Suggestions

Communicating with your spouse during your divorce process can sometimes get a little heated and make things worse as you are trying to reach a settlement.  Here are 3 simple tips for how to best communicate with your spouse effectively during the difficult time of divorce. 1) Take a deep breath and count to 10 Before replying to an email or text message from your soon-to-be … [Read more...] about Do’s and Don’ts for Communicating with Your Spouse During Your Divorce

Financial worries and restricted parenting time are two of the most common divorce fears. These are both issues that nearly all divorcing couples must work through.  One of the advantages of the Collaborative Divorce process is that it facilitates meaningful conversations around these issues and can lead to a better divorce process and a better post-divorce life than when compared to a … [Read more...] about How Collaborative Divorce Address Common Fears About Divorce

This blog was originally posted here on Collaborative Divorce California. Should you stay together just “for the sake of the children?” When marriage is plagued by intense conflict, it may be more beneficial for the children if the parents choose to separate and divorce rather than staying in an unhappy and tumultuous relationship just “for the sake of the children.” By ending a toxic … [Read more...] about Is a Bad Marriage or Divorce Harder for Children? 

Those going through a divorce often have concerns about their personal lives becoming public or being painted in an unfavorable light during the public divorce process. In the Collaborative Divorce process, couples can avoid having their personal, financial and other information become part of the public divorce process.   Keeping Financial Information Private In a Collaborative Divorce, … [Read more...] about Divorce: How to Protect Your Private Information

Divorce is a complex and emotionally draining process that can take a significant toll on anyone. In addition to the financial costs, there are emotional costs that can have a long-term impact on your health. A divorce can be a rollercoaster of emotions that most people have never been through before and it is important to have someone to share your emotions with during the process. I … [Read more...] about The Emotional Cost of a Divorce

It can be easy to think, “I'll just stick it out in this bad marriage until my children are grown up and then we will get a divorce.” In some scenarios, that might be a good option. Typically, however, the children already know about the problems in the marriage. The children are aware of the tension, even if there is no outright arguing or emotional outbursts. Staying together in a stressful … [Read more...] about Common Divorce Misconceptions: “We should wait until after the kids are grown.”

What do you do when you want a divorce but your spouse does not want one? Sometimes when I meet with a couple to talk about the divorce process, I realize that they are not on the same page. I can see that one person is ready to proceed with a divorce proceed, but the other is reluctant. Divorce is always difficult, even when both people agree it is the right decision, however, when one spouse … [Read more...] about What If My Spouse Doesn’t Want a Divorce?