What do you do when you want a divorce but your spouse does not want one? Sometimes when I meet with a couple to talk about the divorce process, I realize that they are not on the same page. I can see that one person is ready to proceed with a divorce proceed, but the other is reluctant. Divorce is always difficult, even when both people agree it is the right decision, however, when one spouse … [Read more...] about What If My Spouse Doesn’t Want a Divorce?
Parents often believe that they will be able to tell the judge what a horrible person the other parent is and that the judge will be on their side and rule in their favor. They believe will get full custody of the children after their story is told and the judge will relegate the other parent to a few hours of visitation a week. This type of thinking a common divorce mistake and is not a true … [Read more...] about A Common Divorce Mistake: The Judge Will Be on My Side
The #1 roadblock to getting a divorce settled are the emotions surrounding this life transition. A divorce is a major life transition, but unlike happy transitions – such as going off to college, getting married, or having a baby - a divorce is often an unhappy transition. Along with the logistics of this life transition, there is also a lot of emotional upheaval and fear surrounding … [Read more...] about Emotional Roadblocks to Getting a Divorce Settled
Collaborative Divorce works because the goal is for you and your spouse to work together to resolve the divorce issues that your family is facing. Collaborative Divorce works because the collaborative professionals don't see the pending divorce as a battle to be won, but as a problem to be solved. You and your family are in a crisis, and you need help to get through it. You are likely … [Read more...] about Why is Collaborative Divorce A Better Divorce Option?
This blog was originally posted on Collaborative Divorce California. Preserving relationships in a divorce is especially important when a couple shares children. And whether they're minor children or adult children, you're still their parents. They're going to love both of you. The last thing children want to see is their parents at odds with each other. They don't want the conflict. They … [Read more...] about The Importance of Preserving Relationships During Divorce
Child Custody and Child Support can be one of the biggest areas of contention in a divorce. They can also be a source for ongoing battles after the divorce is over if the divorce case is not carefully managed by both parents. Child Custody The public policy of the state of California is that a child should have frequent and continuing contact with both parents. We do not … [Read more...] about How Child Custody and Child Support Are Determined
Of course, you can date during your divorce. Dating during your divorce is legal in California. The bigger question is whether that is the best thing to do during your divorce. You need to think about the emotional impact of dating during the divorce. If you had an affair with this person during the marriage, now that you are getting divorced, you may want to openly have a … [Read more...] about Can I Date During My Divorce?