Jami Fosgate

Those going through a divorce often have concerns about their personal lives becoming public or being painted in an unfavorable light during the public divorce process. In the Collaborative Divorce process, couples can avoid having their personal, financial and other information become part of the public divorce process.   Keeping Financial Information Private In a Collaborative Divorce, … [Read more...] about Divorce: How to Protect Your Private Information

Divorce is a complex and emotionally draining process that can take a significant toll on anyone. In addition to the financial costs, there are emotional costs that can have a long-term impact on your health. A divorce can be a rollercoaster of emotions that most people have never been through before and it is important to have someone to share your emotions with during the process. I … [Read more...] about The Emotional Cost of a Divorce

It can be easy to think, “I'll just stick it out in this bad marriage until my children are grown up and then we will get a divorce.” In some scenarios, that might be a good option. Typically, however, the children already know about the problems in the marriage. The children are aware of the tension, even if there is no outright arguing or emotional outbursts. Staying together in a stressful … [Read more...] about Common Divorce Misconceptions: “We should wait until after the kids are grown.”

What do you do when you want a divorce but your spouse does not want one? Sometimes when I meet with a couple to talk about the divorce process, I realize that they are not on the same page. I can see that one person is ready to proceed with a divorce proceed, but the other is reluctant. Divorce is always difficult, even when both people agree it is the right decision, however, when one spouse … [Read more...] about What If My Spouse Doesn’t Want a Divorce?

Parents often believe that they will be able to tell the judge what a horrible person the other parent is and that the judge will be on their side and rule in their favor. They believe will get full custody of the children after their story is told and the judge will relegate the other parent to a few hours of visitation a week. This type of thinking a common divorce mistake and is not a true … [Read more...] about A Common Divorce Mistake: The Judge Will Be on My Side

The #1 roadblock to getting a divorce settled are the emotions surrounding this life transition. A divorce is a major life transition, but unlike happy transitions – such as going off to college, getting married, or having a baby - a divorce is often an unhappy transition. Along with the logistics of this life transition, there is also a lot of emotional upheaval and fear surrounding … [Read more...] about Emotional Roadblocks to Getting a Divorce Settled

Collaborative Divorce works because the goal is for you and your spouse to work together to resolve the divorce issues that your family is facing. Collaborative Divorce works because the collaborative professionals don't see the pending divorce as a battle to be won, but as a problem to be solved. You and your family are in a crisis, and you need help to get through it. You are likely … [Read more...] about Why is Collaborative Divorce A Better Divorce Option?

This blog was originally posted on Collaborative Divorce California. Preserving relationships in a divorce is especially important when a couple shares children. And whether they're minor children or adult children, you're still their parents. They're going to love both of you. The last thing children want to see is their parents at odds with each other. They don't want the conflict. They … [Read more...] about The Importance of Preserving Relationships During Divorce