Jami Fosgate

When we become a parent, we put our child at the center of our lives.  We make sure their diaper gets changed. Before we eat, we make sure our child is fed. We make sure they are safely in a car seat before we get in the car and put on our own seatbelt. You need to do the same thing when you are going through a divorce. In a child-centered divorce, the goal of divorcing parents is to manage … [Read more...] about What is a Child-Centered Divorce?

It is may come as a surprise to hear that adult children are also affected by the divorce of their parents, as much as younger children. Whether 5 years old or 45 years old, divorce is a major transition for both the parents and their children. A divorce affects the children in different ways at different ages. The world that they knew is changing in a radical way.  However, because the … [Read more...] about You’re Getting Divorced: What About Your Adult Children?

Parents need to consider what is best for their children during the holidays and get their egos out of the way. A child is not a possession that can just passed back and forth or cut in half. Their child is a little human being who loves both parents and wants nothing more than to reduce the conflict between the parents. For divorcing parents, a decision must be made about celebrating … [Read more...] about Divorce and the Holidays

Holidays and family gatherings this year will have to be different because of COVID-19.  During this pandemic, we run into the problem where one parent is very concerned about wearing masks, disinfecting every surface, social distancing, and not leaving the house except if absolutely necessary, and the other parent may be more nonchalant and less focused on maintaining the same  safety … [Read more...] about COVID-19, Divorce and the Holidays

In many marriages, the family home is the most valuable asset. If you and your soon-to-be-ex are cooperating with each other, then you can choose to do almost anything you want with the house when you get divorced. For couples who are not cooperating, be forewarned that a judge in California does not have time to help you negotiate the future of the house. The judge will usually order the … [Read more...] about What happens to the house when you get divorced?

Going through a divorce is a huge transition in anyone’s life. You are going from a joint family dynamic to a single parent dynamic. Many decisions must be made during this transition and these decisions have legal, financial, and emotional implications.  Mediation and Collaborative Divorce Give You Control  Using Mediation or the Collaborative Divorce process is beneficial … [Read more...] about Keeping Control of Your Divorce

Netflix’s “Marriage Story” film has recently been released on DVD Those who do not have a Netflix account now have the opportunity to see a realistic portrayal of how a couple deciding to divorce gets sucked into litigation and fighting when that is not what they want to do, especially because they have a young son. Unfortunately, that is the nature of a litigated divorce – it is like a … [Read more...] about Is Netflix’s “Marriage Story” an accurate portrayal of divorce in Los Angeles?

People who have a level of fame or notoriety usually want to keep details of their divorce off TMZ, Twitter and social media. However, many people who are not rich or famous also want to keep their divorce process private. For most people, this is a very personal and painful situation and they do not want to expose the details and eccentricities of their lives to the public.  There is … [Read more...] about How to Keep Your Divorce Private