Every divorce is hard, especially if you have been married for many years or have children.
Your life had a certain routine, and now everything is changing. Adapting to this new situation is tough, especially if you didn’t ask for the divorce. You will need help to get through it. Trying to handle everything by yourself is not a good idea. Having a good support system from different resources can make things much easier.
Collaborative Divorce is Designed for Support
In a Collaborative Divorce, the Team approach offers help for both you and your spouse during the divorce process. Even if you asked for the divorce and feel you don’t need help, it’s good to have support resources available just in case.
A good Divorce Coach is key. You might think you don’t need one, but as the divorce goes on, the availability of a Divorce Coach is essential. For your spouse, who might be more emotional, the divorce coach can help manage the rollercoaster of feelings generated by the end of the marriage. The Divorce Coach helps both of you make better decisions and communicate better, reducing conflicts, costs, and the time it will take to complete your divorce case. Nobody wants a divorce to take longer or cost more than necessary and Divorce Coach helps speed up the process and save money.
Another important Collaborative Team member is the Financial Neutral. In most marriages, one spouse manages the family finances, and the other spouse doesn’t know much about their finances. The Financial Neutral explains everything clearly, helping you both to make good financial decisions instead of emotional decisions that may regret later. Having the Financial Neutral managing the financial discussion will also build trust and makes the process smoother.
Collaborative Attorneys are the other important piece in a Collaborative Divorce. They handle the legal aspects of divorce, helping to settle things without expensive court hearings. Court dates can be weeks or months away, but your Collaborative Attorneys help you resolve issues more quickly and efficiently.
Other Sources of Support During Your Divorce
You should also consider other resources, such as meeting with your own personal therapist or counselor. Although the Collaborative Divorce Coach is a licensed therapist, their role in the Team is not to provide individual therapy and each spouse having their own therapist can provide much-needed emotional support.
Friends and family can also offer important social support, helping you avoid feeling isolated. It’s important not to rely on your children for emotional support during the divorce. Instead, seek help from a therapist, counselor, or supportive friends and family.
You might also meet with a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst or Certified Fianancai Planner or other financial advisor to help you learn how manage your assets after the divorce.
In summary, your Collaborative Divorce Team and additional support systems can make a big difference in how you handle your divorce, leading to a better outcome for everyone involved.
Since 2010, Burbank Lawyer Jami Fosgate has dedicated her law practice to assisting clients in a broad range of Family Law matters. In addition to helping couples and individuals peacefully resolve their cases in a timely and cost-effective manner, Jami Fosgate also provides Family Law Legal Documentation Preparation.
Jami Fosgate’s mediation practice is focused on bringing the parties together to control the outcome of their case and settle their disagreements amicably. By doing so, the parties will be better equipped to co-parent and work together to resolve any future conflicts.
